Do you find that losing weight is a constant goal in your life? That perhaps there's NEVER a time when you aren't trying to lose a few (or a lot) of pounds? If that's the case for you, please know that there are valid reasons for us always striving to continue to become smaller.
However, I'm also here to let you know that losing weight won't make you happy.
It's completely normal to constantly have a goal of losing weight because we are taught that a smaller body will result in ultimate happiness.
If you've been taught that thinness is the key to happiness, why wouldn't weight loss always be the ultimate goal?
It makes so much sense when you stop and think about it: we are told that when you inhabit a smaller body you are happy, healthy, successful, have incredible relationships, you name it- the world is your oyster!
With that type of guarantee being presented to you, it's no wonder you are always striving to become smaller. It's the diet industry's job to make you feel as though you can't be happy without losing weight- otherwise they wouldn't be able to make billions of dollars on your self-hatred.
But here's the catch- you've been sold utter lies. Losing weight won't result in you being happier, more successful, and it won't magically fix your relationships.
One tool I use with clients who are set on weight loss as the answer to all of their problems is this: Imagine a time in your life when you inhabited a smaller body. A time when you lost some weight, or perhaps a time when you lived in a smaller body for another reason. You can also imagine a friend or family member who experienced weight loss.
Now ask yourself: Were you truly happier in this smaller body? Did all of your worries dissipate as your weight dropped? Did you feel free around food? Was it everything you hoped it would be?
Or was your friend/loved one happier, a better friend, when they lost weight?
The answer is, of course, NO. In fact many times when we reflect on these times we worked extremely hard and lost weight, we find that in a smaller body we feel even more obsessed with food & exercise, we feel irritable, and because our body is a size that it's not meant to be, we are fighting our body the entire way.
After weight loss we find we're still not comfortable in our skin because the underlying issue isn't addressed- which is that what we're really chasing is what weight loss has promised us (but can't deliver): unconditional love, happiness, joy & abundance
When we realize this, we're able to begin to shift our perspective from weight loss being the answer to all of our questions, to finding that the power to bring happiness & joy into our life is available to us right now. And how powerful is that realization?!
How can you begin to live the life you imagine yourself living once you've lost your goal weight- right now? Make a small step today to bring that life to you right now. What you'll find is that you have the ability to create the life you're meant to live TODAY. Stop waiting to LIVE because of a weight loss goal & begin LIVING right now!
About Jessica Leigh Wellbeing
At Jessica Leigh Wellbeing, I support women in discovering the wisdom in their body's cravings.
I utilize a customized multi-faceted approach that addresses the psychology of eating, intuitive movement, energy healing, bodywork & more.
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